The nature of her article starts out by talking about going to church, almost in a selfish sense (not that children ever reveal that in us), instead of looking at being part of the body of Christ. Bogel is looking for more what she can get out of the church than how she can give and serve the church. This particular morning the devil himself is coming in the form of her naked three year old, which has become the number one reason for no longer being part of the body of Christ.
In her real life example, she lost to her three year old son as she remained on the "wrong side of the door" of the church. She goes on to say, Since our very first Sunday as a family of three, my own family has utterly failed to merge with the family of God.
The above statement by Bogel is sad and breaks my heart as it is an implication of something else. She is either a). part of a church that does not make room or prioritize children as we see in the New Testament or b). she is part of a church that caters to her every need in regards to her children, but she still selfishly chooses to allow them to be her excuse for not fully participating in the body of Christ.
The church is described as a family and if you think about your own family then you typically take care of one another and care for the needs of each other. The church as our spiritual family is to be the same way. I think many parents, Bogel included, find themselves not viewing the church the way that is should be viewed or part of a church that isn't operating as a church was meant to function.
In regards to Bogel herself, having this struggle is not the problem because at different stages we all experience this with our children, but what she fails to do in her post is turn to the all-sufficient grace found in Jesus. "But the [the Lord] said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me" (2 Cor. 12:9).
In the book Give Them Grace, Elyse M. Fitzpatrick says, "The power of Christ flows through parents who boast in and embrace their personal weakness, not on those who think they don't need it." Bogel obviously needs it, we all need it, and on some level she recognizes that, but she has a faulty view of how the church with children looks and fails to fully rely on Christ and his bride in her struggle.
If you are a parent of small children and part of a church, how do you do it? How does your church do it? Please share in the comment section below.